The Taj Mahal of Self-Sabotage, what I like to call “The Sabotage Mahal”, is the absence of self-love. It is in loving ourselves fully that we find an expansive source of power that itself is love, freedom, joy, connection, and growth. The Taj Mahal itself, one of the most iconic and recognizable structures in the world, was built from the inspiration of love itself, as a monumental symbol of love (in this case between two souls), and a reflection of the power of love to produce such a magnificent structure.
There may exist in each person, as they progress through the maturation process from infancy to adulthood, a mechanism that generates power from increasing the distance between our essence of self-love and personal autonomy or independence. It is well documented that in order to survive the maturation process, a baby embarks on a process of discovering his or her separateness. This process results in two seemingly disparate yet fundamentally connected experiences: loneliness and identity. As the gap widens over the course of life from childhood to adolescence, from adolescence to adulthood, from adulthood to old age, and from the final years of life to death, our sense of loneliness and identity is always there often nudging us to wonder if something is missing. This subtle or blatant sense that “something isn’t quite right” may direct all of our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and interactions with others and the world around us, leading us either towards or away from self-love.
On our journeys to re-discover our essential being of pure love, we must recognize that the blockages that present themselves, and that result in repeated experiences of self-sabotage or “getting in our own way”, are really building blocks that help us find our way back to who we really are. As soon as we recognize these obstacles as cornerstones to growth and positive change, our relationship to ourselves, others, and the world around us changes. We begin to see symmetry, beauty, and magnificence all around us because we have all the love and power we need right inside.