Tell Me What To Do

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Indecision can be paralyzing. Sometimes we just want someone to tell us what to do. We may be faced with too many options which short-circuits are ability to be decisive. We may be super anxious about some real or imagined catastrophe that would occur by taking action in one direction, or the other. We all face moments in our lives, and they are just moments, when our inner compass is broken or we don’t trust it and what we want most is for someone or something to come along and decide for us.

All of the following statements may be true: 1) Uncertainty is an essential component of living fully; 2) Indecision itself is a decision which, when accepted, expedites change; 3) our inner compass and outside feedback are aligned in the service of helping us grow. If they are true, then being told what to do is insufficient. In fact, being told what to do by someone else and not having internally come to the same conclusion internally in an authentic way is potentially worse than being stuck. Have you ever told someone what to do and it turned out being the WRONG thing?

Let us pause for a moment: Pay Attention Understand Self Expression. We need to tune into our own experiences, our thoughts, our feelings, our behaviors. We need to observe more, become the watcher of ourselves in the spirit of developing more and more self-awareness, especially when we feel stuck, lost, confused, and overwhelmed. The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to trust that whatever we are debating inside our heads and our hearts is for our own progress. It is not a problem to be solved nor is there anything we have to do. Patience is a most valuable resource. Tap it often.

So, no, I won’t tell you what to do, but you may still ask. Reaching out for help in and of itself is one of the greatest acts of humility.

Published by Dr. Rick Barnett

Licensed Clinical Psychologist-Doctorate, Addiction/Recovery Specialist, among other things...

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